Last year time like this, we were all excited with what the new year had in store for us, and as always new beginnings always gets us hyped.
I believe in self-proclamation, and “I have been manifesting that 2020 is my year for quite a long time and even with COVID-19 coming in between nothing has stopped my feeling.”
On my side of life, 2020 really started in a bad notch, I was at a better space while writing this one https://doreenandy.com/10-practical-ways-to-reinvent-your-happiness/
I know this year has had quite an impact of change in my life, and despite all that has happened I still held a positive note and applause for 2020. I have had major lessons that I picked up from 2020 (we all have). Let’s dig on what marks 2020 has left for me and hopefully (Us).
Hit me up in the comments, I am always looking forward for all the storytelling points that you could share with me.
God is on Your Case
See, we all get to a point where we ask God where he’s been in our lives? Has he been present? Is he seeing our sufferings? The start of 2020 started with this notch for me. I had days where I could get back home and just burst into tears, I couldn’t stop it, I couldn’t handle most of it.
I remember this exact occurrence where I got back home, and went straight to my room, kneeled down to pray and even before I started praying, I cried my heart out in panic. It took me at least 20 minutes before I couldn’t even breath properly and then; I only ended up saying “God Save Me.”
The coming months after that, I saw the hand of God in my life and I saw him rescue me from that situation and blessing me better upwards.
In my distress I called to the Lord; I cried to my God for help. From his temple he heard my voice; my cry came before him, into his ears.Psalm 18:6 (NIV)
One Act of Kindness
“I expect to pass through life but once. If therefore, there be any kindness I can show, or any good thing I can do to any fellow being, let me do it now, and not defer or neglect it, as I shall not pass this way again.”William Penn
Creating a habit is always referred to as creating a muscle, it always needs repetition of that habit for a long time before the habit then sticks to your mind.
I have tried to speak about so much on my Twitter, at times I would go to even give out ideas on what act of kindness you could do today.
My 2020 was dedicated towards doing one act of kindness a day. This act of kindness could involve anything from multiple standing on a zebra cross to let people cross the road, complimenting a colleague or person’s new dress or saying grateful words to one of your friends. Well, I found myself doing more than one act on different days. Thinking of one-act to conduct in a day could lead you to recognize the opportunities for you to be kind on more occasions.
I have seen my life drastically changing, this particular habit has made me resonate with kindness in more acts that I do, made me aware of more ways to serve, improved my relationships and even opened new doors to new relationships.
I am taking this one to 2021.
“Plant trees under whose shade you do not plan to sit.”
Fight in Kindness
I closed 2019 with a portable investment that I made up with a friend. At that particular moment, we were all hooked and quite anxious to start a business together. It was the first business I am doing with this particular friend and it felt like a good decision.
Months along the line things started getting pretty hitched up, the investment was still a work in progress and we all had to invest time in it before it starts to grow and just provide passive income. Things got more intense as time went by, we had no any plan on priorities, dealing with people, our time investment in this and anything along with the business perspective.
It got into the coming months of a heated argument, things got very very salty, bad words were thrown in the air, only for us to arrive to a conclusion to split up all the money into two and go our own ways.
The lessons I got from this particular occasion is a whole blog post on its own, but the way I particularly handled the fight proved success months after all this was left behind, our friendship was broken, but at least there was room to talk and mend up thing. If only I had responded to any of these with harsh and provocative words, this little space of peace left between us would never be there.
I have spoken before on how once someone is your friend they will never stop being one here (https://doreenandy.com/unpopular-opinions/), but 2020 taught me that even in anger try and whisper some words in your mind that will calm you down and remember there will still be future days that your friendship preludes.
“Constant kindness can accomplish much. As the sun makes ice melt, kindness causes misunderstanding, mistrust, and hostility to evaporate”Albert Schweitzer
Pray for other People
God is searching for those who would stand in the gap, to intercede for others.Ezekiel 22:30
I got accustomed to a particular praying strategy for at least a year or two now. It’s called SOAP, meaning
Through this, it provides anyone with the right amount of time and concentration to what God has to say in your life. I went on and customized the Prayer part, and I learnt to divide it into four prayers.
- Grateful – I write two things that I am grateful for
- Personal Prayer – One thing I am asking God to provide or imply in my life
- Praying for two different people
The part I want to stress is how praying for two different people has proved a blessing in my life. I had days when I prayed to God about someone’s need and came back to thank him when that particular thing was met. I learned this from Fervent – Priscilla Shirer’s book, where her grandmother intentionally said a prayer to even someone she just met and would not have any future engagements with.
Praying for others is not a choice; it is our privilege.
Meaning – “done on purpose; deliberate.”
“Disciplined runners consistently clear their heads and focus fully on the journey ahead.. .because their passion and zeal for the goal supersedes the strain. The goal beckons them onward. Passion doesn’t negate weariness; it just resolves to press beyond it.”― Priscilla Shirer
It really is such a joy to have deep conversation with someone. I enjoy the process, the mind-boggling state of thinking and figuring out new things. I have most of these conversations with one of my friend. During this particular one, I pulled a random joke that I had no explanations of (in my defense, it was a joke I was not supposed to have any meaning) yet; she convinced me how important it was to be intentional with our words and how we choose to use them.
This made me try to understand what it means to be intentional
• Conducting intentional conversations
• Thinking and being aware of my thoughts
• Intentional acts, and
• INTENTIONAL LIVING
Intentional living makes you realize how your life is shaped on a certain rhythm with your VALUES, from this you could go as far and determine what your rakes are and how you could improve the relations with your value. Everyone has a set of value they stick to, good or bad those values exist in your life. Becoming intentional about these values is one way to improve the quality of your life and engagements.
“Investigate the motivations behind your lifestyle choices and whether the reasoning behind your decisions feels true to you or not.”
In all this, in all the year, I have spent 2020 being grateful and planting trees in spaces where I had no business to ever enjoy the shadow.
How has 2020 been to you?