Of lately, I have been going through a rough patch, you know when you start turning to google for answers to medicines that make your emotional-self tamable? Yeah, I have been going through a rough patch. The kind of rough patch where I googled medicines to make me stop crying. It felt like all the measures I took couldn’t make me stop crying, my heart ached, I felt miserable, nothing worked, nothing helped. I even texted a doctor if he can prescribe some Anti-Depressants, thinking this was my way out of the way I was feeling. Just like you (or maybe not), I, google such things. Like how to be happy, how to erase the sadness, how to enjoy life without feeling sad. Why I’m writing a blog post about it? Beats me too but If these steps helped me, why not share them with you?

I hope this one will raise you from the rough patch your facing.

1. Count your Blessings

I know you’re rolling your eyes already, it’s okay, it’s a harsh world, but there’s a slight chance you are reading this through your phone, laptop, gadget, that’s something you should count in your blessings. Take time off to realize the things in your life that are privileged, air, strength, love around you. Write them down, write down all the things that you’re thankful for, then really thank God for them.

I tuned myself into the habit of keeping a prayer journal maybe two or three years ago (it doesn’t have to be a journal per say, it can be a notebook you use while praying). Throughout my prayers, I started writing two things that I am grateful for, from the previous day. Alas, I, never missed something that I was thankful for from the last day. This made me go around expectantly looking and noticing things I will write on that part during my prayer session. This habit really changed my path of thoughts. Ever since I am always grateful for the little moments I encounter.

“Everyone who is alive can find something to be grateful for if they look for it. If you are among the few that can’t find anything, start with the fact that you are ALIVE and continue from there. Counting one’s blessings is a barometer of mental health.”

Gudjon Bergmann

2. Push yourself to get up before the rest of the world.

One of these days, I’ll write a proper blog on a spectacular morning routine. I do believe that, by the time you step out of your door to serve the day, it should happen only when your heart is fulfilled. When your heart is in peace when you have faith on the day when you’ve gathered happiness in yourself. Before you face the world and its struggles, seek your joy earlier. Start with 7 am, then 6 am, then 5:30 am, make it daily progress, make it fun or even gift yourself when you’ve crossed a step. Have a fantastic start!

Remember this can be good if you push yourself to fall asleep earlier, start with 11 pm, then at 10 pm, then 9 pm. Wake up in the morning feeling re-energized and comfortable. The secret really is in getting a good night sleep.

3. Have a luxurious shower with your favorite music playing.

I dance in the shower, it wakes me up, it brightens me up, it makes me happier. Sing in the shower, show off your voice in your own audience – The idea is to be comfortable with it. Cleanse your face, wash your hair, scrub your body, brush your teeth. Lather your whole body in your favorite moisturizer, get familiar with the part between your toes, your inner thighs, the back of your neck, etc., you get it, experiment your beautiful body. Remember your up early, you won’t be rushing anywhere.

“Dance. Smile. Giggle. Marvel. TRUST. HOPE. LOVE. WISH. BELIEVE. Most of all, enjoy every moment of the journey, and appreciate where you are at this moment instead of always focusing on how far you have to go.”

Mandy Hale

4. Get into the habit of cooking yourself a magnificent breakfast.

Fry an egg the way you like it. Slice up a fresh avocado and squirt way too much lemon on it. Sit and eat it and do nothing else. Don’t rush yourself in getting done, don’t even go all the way running around eating your breakfast, feel good enjoying your favorite breakfast.

“When you wake up in the morning, Pooh,” said Piglet at last, “what’s the first thing you say to yourself?”
“What’s for breakfast?” said Pooh. “What do you say, Piglet?”
“I say, I wonder what’s going to happen exciting today?” said Piglet.
Pooh nodded thoughtfully. “It’s the same thing,” he said.”

A.A. Milne Winnie-the-pooh

5. Hydrate.

Drink more water. Buy a 1-litre water bottle and use it. Begin with pushing yourself to drink the whole thing in a day, then try drinking it twice, then start taking 2/3 litres a day. I have introduced a collogue into this habit and watching her transform really makes me tick. It took me some time to enjoy the practice as well, but I didn’t know how much I needed a regular break to stand up, head to the loo, wash my hands, dry them thoroughly, moisturize them with a right-hand lotion and get back to my desk to work more, in new energy – until I started working on it.

6. Push yourself to go for a walk (at least once a week)

Take your headphones, go to the beach, notice the trees, the buildings, people’ faces. Smile at strangers walking the other way don’t even bother who smiles back. Notice something new that you have never noticed, you know what this does to you? It makes you understand how there’s so much going on in the world than your problems.

“When I’m in turmoil, when I can’t think, when I’m exhausted and afraid and feeling very, very alone, I go for walks. It’s just one of those things I do. I walk and I walk and sooner or later something comes to me, something to make me feel less like jumping off a building.”

Jim Butcher

7. Organize your room.

Strip your bed of your sheets, keep new ones. Change the way your room was, arrange everything once again. Empty your underwear draw, put a massive scoop of scented fabric softener in there and wash. Fold your clothes in a different arrangement. Give out all the clothes that haven’t been making you happy and beautiful from last year. Clean your mirror, your laptop, your gadgets, light a scented candle.

“The best way to choose what to keep and what to throw away is to take each item in one’s hand and ask: “Does this spark joy?” If it does, keep it. If not, dispose of it. This is not only the simplest but also the most accurate yardstick by which to judge.”

Marie Kondō

8. Message old friends with personal jokes.

Reminisce. Suggest a catch up soon. Push yourself to follow through.

9. Notice your interests.

Think hard about what interests you. Crime? Action? Take yourself in the direction of your interests, find them, do them, learn them. Or maybe find a book about it and read it. Apparently, there is a book about everything. Unha, we are back to reading. If I was to convince anyone on the road to do anything? I would say READ. Life secret is in those pages.” I know you never enjoy reading books, maybe you just never enjoy reading books that do not interest you, so then get something with your interest.

10. Get a notebook.

“I can shake off everything as I write; my sorrows disappear, my courage is reborn.”

Anne Frank

You probably have 2/3 notebooks lying around, start using one of them spiritually. Write down most of what you do, think, or wish to do. Write about your recent dinner dates, appointments, assignments, coffees, what you need to do that day. Write on what made you happy today and what could really make you happy soon. Enjoy the writing process, break the writing rules, have fun at your own pace, trust me there is py in formulating your thoughts in writing.

………. It’s like whispering to one’s self and listening at the same time.

Mina Murray

Bonus Last one, Become the person you would ideally fall in love with. Compliment people on their cute clothes, even when you don’t think they’re cute, make them feel better of their days, it will raise your moods as well. Challenge yourself to not ridicule anyone for a whole day, then two, then a week. Walk with a straight posture. Look people in the eye. Ask people about their story (there’s always a new thing to learn). Have Older Friends, 4, 6, 10 years older. Respect them, ask them questions, listen to their advice, become inquisitive on things that are happening in other people’s lives.

Spread happiness, I promise it will come back to you as well.

“Be careful not to let the things that you don’t have, blindfold you from noticing the all the blessings in your life.”

Edmond Mbiaka

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